Comments on: Autism Etiquette

By: valerie Brenner

valerie Brenner — Wed, 18 Aug 2010 22:40:58 +0000

OMG. Michelle. Godo fo ryour writing an article on this. Although my son is highly functioning, autisim doesn’t go away. It grows. For those of you of you who don’t know, day by day, things change! Childen turn into audlts. Situations change from small to large. Children who become adults think that they can handle themselselves and sometimes begin medicating themselve. OMG! It is so crazy and scary. Please HELP US HELP THEM! That’s the statement that I think everyone can relate to. I beliueve that this is a statement that everyone mother could live by! Or want to live by.

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By: Michelle Crowe-Paz

Michelle Crowe-Paz — Mon, 22 Sep 2008 01:32:21 +0000

Dear Nandini,
Please remove my posting from 4 July 2007. I hold the utmost respect for your article, but would appreciate you removing my post.

Thank you,
Michelle Crowe-Paz

By: Srini Srinivasan

Srini Srinivasan — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 22:45:12 +0000

Dear Nandini:

I salute you for your courage and candor in posting this article. In my limited view of the world, I find that parents of autistic children have their own barriers to overcome in acknowledging the elephant in the room. A big part of this is their hope that their child would pass off for ‘normal’.

In today’s world where 1 in 150 children may fall in the autistic spectrum, it is time parents of all stripes to understand the realities and at least be aware of how they could respond. I appreciate your offering us these insights.

In closing, I’d like to recall a rather amazing parent and soccer coach, Kevin. We started the season with this kid who would not take direction, would be extremely disruptive and refuse to cooperate at the most critical times. Kevin did not cut him any slack nor did he show any sign of resentment – a tough ask for a coach as competitive as he is. At the end of the season this child was as proud hoisting his trophy as the rest were and if you didn’t know it, you could not tell he was any different from the rest of his team.

I daresay there are a few mor parents of Kevin’s sort of out there.

Cheers
Srini

By: Geeta P

Geeta P — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 22:43:05 +0000

Dear WNI,
This article has come not a day soon! Though written with reference to people with autism, at many levels this article is a behaviour Bible for all. Yes, we could all learn from kids who are exposed to disabled children. And empathy is recognition and acceptance. Beautifully written. Kudos to you!

By: Ahmed

Ahmed — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 22:42:14 +0000

Excellent article Nandini. The 8 thoughtful points you have written in this article can be printed and passed around as flyers!

A lot of folks don’t realize that a simple understanding attitude towards the family can make such a huge different for the parents as well as the kid in that particular situation. Your article rocks !

By: Murugan

Murugan — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 22:36:32 +0000

Hi Nandini: congrats on a very well-written article! You have accurately verbalized the thoughts of many parents like myself who have a special-needs child and regularly face situations similar to what you have described.

By: Deep

Deep — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 22:35:29 +0000

Very nicely written article, Nandini. I’m glad you brought out the fact that Autism is not just about melt-downs, it’s also about odd behaviors; and also that speech delays do not indicate lower mental levels.

By: Rupi Wijay

Rupi Wijay — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 22:34:43 +0000

Hi Nandini,

Very Well written article. As a mother of an Autistic child I could relate to every single line in your article, which all seemed so meaningful.

Rupi.

By: Krish

Krish — Wed, 04 Jul 2007 22:34:02 +0000

Great piece…

Nietzsche comes to mind – “And those who were seen dancing were thought to be insane by those who could not hear the music”

Recognize that to care for anyone else enough to make their problems one’s own, is ever the beginning of one’s real ethical development. How far we go in life depends on our being tender with the young, compassionate with the aged and challenged, sympathetic with the striving and tolerant of the weak and strong. Because someday in life we will have been all of these.

Communication does not depend on syntax, or eloquence, or rhetoric, or articulation but on the emotional context in which the message is being heard. People can only hear you when they are moving toward you, and they are not likely to when your words are pursuing them. Even the choicest words lose their power when they are used to overpower.

Attitudes are the real figures of speech.