Monthly Archives: May 2009

It's Mother's Day – How about a home spa?

By Piya Mitra

mothers-day-home-spaMother’s Day is around the corner and I for one am certainly looking forward to celebrating it. I look forward to my two little girls giving me hugs and kisses throughout the day, telling me how much they love me. I am also looking forward to the little toy wrapped in paper from the printer with a flower stuck to it or the rocks wrapped in newspaper and my all time –  favorite ants from the garden offered as pets!!

Yes I do love those gifts because it’s the thought and effort put in by my five year old that matters. I would rather get a rock as a present than something picked out from the mall. I hope this recession teaches us that gifts don’t make us happy, it’s the person giving the gift and the thought behind it that we ultimately care  about.

Having said that I will add that all moms need to be pampered. Most of the days it’s the moms doing all the pampering and one day of R&R is certainly well deserved . A Spa Day is certainly a good gift for any mom but can be quite expensive and in these tough economic times may be hard to afford. So how about a Home Spa?

It can be easier on the pocket and if you make it a family affair it can be a fun way to spend quality time together. By using all natural ingredients you can keep it Earth friendly, so you end up pampering your mom and doing good for Mother Earth too!

The Home Spa

This will require some planning. You need to decide what services your spa offers Mom. Lets say a Manicure, Pedicure and a facial. You will need specific items for each treatment so make sure you have all of them.

The next step is to set up the spa area and give it a spa ambience and calming atmosphere.

spa-ambienceSetting the Spa atmosphere

Begin with cleaning up the area, dim the lights and set up scented candles, fresh flowers, calming music. You can also offer mom some cucumber water and chocolate dipped strawberries to snack on while she’s being pampered.

Pedicure/Manicure

For a simple home manicure you need

  • Warm water
  • Hand soap
  • Hydrogen peroxide
  • Hand cream
  • Hand towels
  • Nail polish remover
  • Nail polish

spa-ambience2Remove any old nail polish .Soak hand in warm water with few drops of hydrogen peroxide & soap. Soak each hand for few minutes. Dry hands with towel. Massage
each hand for five minutes. Dry hands with towel and apply fresh nail polish.

Some  tips for natural face masks and scrubs

Banana-Avacado Mask

Ingredients

  • 1/2 over-ripe banana
  • 1/2 over-ripe avacado
  • 2 Tbsp unflavored full-fat yogurt
  • 1 tsp olive oil

Instructions

Mash banana and avocado, combine with other ingredients, and mix well. Apply liberally to face and neck. Leave on for 20 to 30 minutes, then rinse with warm water.

Besan & Yogurt Mask

Ingredients

  • 2 tbsp besan (gram flour)
  • 1 tbsp plain yogurt
  • 1tsp honey
  • 1tsp rose water

Intstructions

Apply the batter to the face. With the tips of your fingers work the batter around and apply evenly to face. Leave on for 20 to 30 minutes, then rinse with warm water.

Oatmeal Exfoliating Scrub

Ingredients

  • 2 heaped tsp fine oatmeal
  • 1 tsp baking soda

Instructions

Mix oatmeal and baking soda, add enough water to make a thick paste. Rub over face, rinse, pat dry.

spa-ambience4If you are a Mom this is certainly a fun activity to do with your kid. Dads this will be a very nice way for your family to show your appreciation for mom

To all my fellow hard-working mothers out there – Happy Mothers Day!

Piya Mitra is a Bay Area event organizer. She can be reached at emailpiya@gmail.com or through her website Elegant Eventz . She also blogs her favorite recipes and party ideas at http://celebratingeveryday.blogspot.com/ Check out her blog for more massage tips.

Uniforms in public schools? One Fremont school tries the experiment

school-uniform

Picture by David Monniaux under Creative Commons license

To the first generation Indian American, wearing a uniform to school is so ingrained in the consciousness that it is actually a moment of dissonance when you realize you will have to figure out what your child is going to wear every day. When my older child moved from a uniform-requiring private school to the local elementary, clothes shopping for the school year was yet another chore that clogged up an already busy life.

Parents of school-going children in the US have always been resistant to uniforms. There is even an organization called Asserting Parental Rights — It’s Our Duty that actively opposes school uniforms, on the grounds that “the policies trample students’ right of expression and parents’ right to raise children without government interference.”

About one in four public elementary schools and one in eight public middle and high schools in the USA have policies dictating what a student wears to school – but school guidelines mostly restrict themselves to enforcing dress codes that emphasize neatness and adequate cover. Few mandate a specific kind of “common dress”, which is the euphemism that educators and uniform supporters use to make the idea more palatable.

In Fremont, two schools attempted to incorporate uniforms into school policy – one succeeded and one failed.

The first attempt was made at Forest Park Elementary, one of the higher performing schools in North Fremont. The effort was spearheaded by parents prominent among whom was Sridevi Ganti.

“I have old school views,” says Sridevi, trying to find words to explain her interest in promoting a uniform dress code. “When my older son went from Thornton Middle School to American High, I was shocked to see the way kids were dressed.”

“Kids should be focused on their education rather than the clothes they wear,” she adds. Her younger son was still in elementary school and she decided to focus her efforts on implementing uniforms there to begin with.

Sridevi was active as a volunteer at the school and on several committees and she approached the school administrators to get their opinion on the idea. There was institutional support, though Sridevi was warned that it would be a long process. One of the key requirements was a parent survey that required about 80% participation by all parents affected by the new policy and two-thirds assent from those polled.

Before putting out the survey, Sridevi decided to float the idea among parents through the local yahoogroups. Here the entire process broke down. Vociferous and militant opposition to the idea of uniforms from a small group of parents drowned out the low key support the idea had. “This is not India,” said one email, “here kids have a choice.”

The tone of the emails got so rancorous that the principal of Forest Park Elementary had to step in and walk back the school’s desire to move to uniforms. Parents who were generally supportive of the process decided to stay out of the discussion and did not turn in their surveys. Ultimately the plan fizzled due to lack of support.

This September, however, school children in another school in Fremont, Oliveira Elementary, will show up in common dress. This successful initiative is the result of the efforts of their dynamic Principal Roxanne J-Liu.

Roxanne worked as a teacher for several years in a school in Fresno where the students wore uniforms. “My experience there was fabulous,” she says. “Kids came to school focused on learning.”

When she took over as Principal of Oliveira Elementary, she discovered that the school had a similar demographic. She started planting seeds of the uniform idea among parents and teachers during conferences. There were murmurs of dissent, not just from the parents but also from the teachers who were concerned about the additional work it would take to put the policy through. She kept at it for a few years, emphasizing the positives of having the common dress till she felt there was adequate support. She invited dissenters to discussions where they could air their opinions and worked at convincing them for the need for uniforms. “When you wear a suit to work, you take your work more seriously,” is her argument. “A common dress establishes a purpose – that kids come to school to be educated.”

Roxanne then drafted the parent survey and asked the teachers to administer it to the parents during parent-teacher conferences. This ensured a high response rate and locked down the support of parents who were not averse to the idea. Once the adequate level of support was in place, the school threw the discussion open to forums.

“The parents had the usual complaints – that the uniforms would take away the child’s individuality, that the clothes would cost too much,” remembers Roxanne. The school therefore has an opt-out policy though she believes that with the high number of parents supporting the common dress code the opt-outs are likely to conform in time.

Starting September 2nd, the kids of Oliveira Elementary in Fremont will show up at school dressed in some variation of solid colored shirts and pants. There is a range of colors that the school finds acceptable and lots of rewards for the children for compliance.

Roxanne is well aware that this is an experiment. She is actively helping low-income parents to find reasonably priced clothes so it doesn’t impact their pocketbook in already poor economic times and is looking for vouchers that parents can take to consignment stores to find appropriate clothes. The school will ask for feedback in the spring.

Still, the whole process at Oliveira took less than a year while the failed experiment at Forest Park dragged on for several school cycles. Maybe the success at Oliveira can be attributed to the fact that the school has traditionally been low-performing and parents are hungry for any new idea that can give their children an edge and keep them free from distraction. Maybe it was the dynamism and involvement of the principal, as opposed to parental pressure at Forest Park. Whatever the reason, we can be sure that if academic scores at Oliveira show a significant uptick on the heels of the new policy, there will be a  lot of other schools in the neighborhood clamoring to do the same..

Kaun Banega PM?

By Geeta Padmanabhan

Image by Danny Birchall and used under Creative Commons license

Image by Danny Birchall and used under Creative Commons license

You thought you had seen them all – candidates with criminal records, bucks-and-biryani for votes, pre-and-post-poll alliances, seasoned party leapers, horse trading, disappearing legislators, MPs winning while in prison, legislators who never enter assemblies through the term of office. The 15th Lok Sabha poll, however, is now “raising the bar” on the surprise quotient.

No one knows who the next PM of this great country will be. It is like watching a mystery play and still waiting for the “whodunit” after the curtain has come down.

The BJP, at the beginning of the campaign a couple of months ago, projected LK Advani as its prime-ministerial candidate. They expected to have the first mover advantage to show that their internal differences had been sorted out and the party stood behind Advaniji.

Just as you looked the other way, some zealots added: Narendra Bhai has the qualities to be a PM. No, clarified the Parivar, “he is PM of the future.”  Modi said he was not in the race. Now Nitish Kumar in Bihar (alliance partner) has said, “It’s Advani or none.” If BJP got the majority, of course.

After catcalls of “Manmohan is a weak PM” from outfits across the nation, the Sardar pulled out his sword to prove that he “would continue to pursue the policies of the Congress.” That’s when Priyanka decided to do her sister act. “Rahul Gandhi has all the makings of a PM,” she said. Voices joined in and when this threatened to get out of hand, the young Gandhi “clarified” that he was not yet ready to be PM. Sonia and sundry supporters chorused that Manmohan Singh was indeed their first man.

Laloo Prasad wasn’t going to let this pronouncement go un-commented upon. “One day I will be PM,” he asserted and promptly formed an alliance with Ram Vilas Paswan and Mulayam Singh. He then allotted 3 seats out of the 40-odd in Bihar to the Congress unilaterally. He said, “I’m with the Congress but the PM will be decided only after the poll results are announced.”

Meantime, the grand Third Front [read earlier report] had been formed. This is a truly democratic set-up. Every party chief here believes he/she can be PM. They just need the right numbers. The Dravida parties of Tamil Nadu are the only ones who’ve not talked about PM ambitions.

Mayavathi is in a league of her own. Yesterday she reminded her audiences how confident she is about her ability to lead the country. “If Manmohanji can become PM through the backdoor Rajya Sabha), why can’t I?” she thundered.

In the middle of all this entertainment, Rahul Gandhi called a major press conference a few hours ago. Inspired by Obama’s consensus politics, he said “all options are open” adding that there were many able politicians Congress could talk to post-poll. He then mentioned Nitish Kumar, Navin Patnaik and – hold your breath – Jayalalithaa.

Result? Soniaji cancelled her scheduled campaign program in Chennai today citing Karunanidhi’s illness – don’t you visit people who are hospitalized?

Who will be PM? NDTV has announced a guessing contest. The prize is a Skoda. Another channel has put up pictures of 10 candidates on the website and has asked people to “guess who”.

Eggheads have now termed the elections “the semi-final”. So you can’t say Indians don’t “engage” in civic duties.

Update: Readers might be miffed that Sharad Pawar has been left out of the main list. This Maratha is definitely in the playing eleven. His supporters say it’s time a Maratha Manush sat in the PM’s gaddhi.

Jeena Yahaan 2009

jeena-kidsIt was heartbreaking. And humbling. And inspiring. I watched most of the show with a lump in my throat and unshed tears at the back of my eyes.

The children and parents of Jeena took the stage yesterday at the India Community Center, Milpitas for their annual show, Jeena Yahaan. Jeena has been a rock for parents of children with special needs. It is a support group and a resource, a community and a refuge; most of all, it is a place families with special challenges go to meet other families like themselves and forge relationships out of  shared common experiences.

The evening began with Pt. Habib Khan’s students singing Panditji’s own compositions created specially for the event. Panditji sat on the side, directing and encouraging the children. Some of the kids sang with gusto, some shrank from the glare of the lights. Unlike a regular children’s event where the parents would be embarrassed by the non-performance of their kids, here there was a serene aura of acceptance, both among the participating parents and the audience.

The acceptance and the love and support that exists among the Jeena community is palpable and almost physical. Audience members shouted words of encouragement to kids on stage. “Go Sanjana,” was the cry when one child froze, overwhelmed by the lights. “You can do it!” was said frequently, as the children overcame incredible odds to present their various talents on stage.

naach-at-jeena1Two dance companies, Selvi Pragasam’s Indian Fusion Dance Academy and Naach, the biggest Bollywood dance company in the US, generously contributed their time and efforts to putting together dance numbers based on Bollywood hits. The joy in the kids’ faces lit up Malavalli Hall, as they waved and twirled to the beat. The audience clapped along, delighting as much in the children’s happiness as the song and dance.

Then there was the play, “Treasure Hunt in TV Land,” which I had written for Jeena. I had to weave in the children’s interests into the play so they would have the patience and enthusiasm to perform on stage and as a result we had Iron Man and Barney rubbing shoulders with Buzz Lightyear, Woody and assorted princesses as the children hunted for treasure with the help of clues.

Whether it was the haunting innocence of a child singing “Shanti Nilava Vendum” with unbelievable purity or the halting exposition of the Gayatri Mantra by a child with cerebral palsy, it was impossible not to be awe-struck by the effort these children put in to perform and the glow in their faces when they had successfully delivered the result of incredible hard work over several weeks.When I saw one child on crutches successfully stomp her weak legs( with little ankle bells attached to them) to the beat of music, I had to work hard not to break down and bawl.

Yes, the set up times between acts was long and yes, some kids just could not perform before a large and loud audience but we knew what challenges they faced and how amazing the whole evening was. There was no fidgeting among the audience and no impatience. If the children could put in the kind of hard work they did, we could show a little patience too.

Jeena Yahaan 2009 has “established a tradition” in the words of Rajni Madan, Jeena’s founder. May this tradition continue for many, many years to come. And may the children continue to astound us with their display of human fortitude and the soaring courage ofthe human spirit.

"99"

Kunal Khemu in 99

There is a scene in the movie Flavors where two software guys on the bench are playing cards to while away their time. One looks at the other and says (and I’m paraphrasing here), “We should do something other than software yaar. Maybe make a movie.” To which the other replies, “Do you think anyone would pay to watch a movie about a couple of software guys on the bench?”

That is pretty much the story of Raj Nidimoru and Krishna DK, two techies from Silicon Valley who got fed up with their careers in the computer industry and decided to make a movie. Flavors was their first full length feature film, a witty movie about a group of connected people in the software industry. (Its sly look at the desi life is so spot on it actually makes for uncomfortable watching at times).

“In the golden days of IT we had so much time, we started thinking and writing a script out of sheer boredom,” explains Raj. The two friends found a camcorder and shot a short film. Being techies, the technical part of movie-making was not hard to pick up. “We did everything,” says Raj, “from writing to editing to sound.” They created a thriller called Just Me, shot on 16 mm, and sent it around to film festivals. The film made waves and opened doors for them.

The film caught the attention of producer Anupam Mittal who suggested they make a full length feature next. The two fledgling film makers pulled in some money from family and friends and made Flavors. The film did excellent business through word of mouth, even though multiplexes were a nascent phenomenon when the movie was released. It was bought by Star TV in India and HBO in Europe. (The economics for movies are such that the big screen take is only a small part of the revenue. Films that succeed on cable and satellite are much better earners for their makers. Raj jokes, “Of course, our viewers in the US saw it on a pirated version! The Indian stores would simple download the movie online and make 10 copies.”)

Now the enterprising team of Raj and Krishna is ready with its second movie, 99 under the banner D2Rfilms. 99, which is intriguingly set in India in the year 1999, is a mainstream Hindi movie starring such well known actors as Boman Irani and Soha Ali Khan.

99-2“Making a movie in India is a totally different experience,” says Raj. “There are a lot of rules you have to work with. You have the unions. Tasks get delegated to professionals. When we were independent film makers we did everything. Now we have to wait for others to finish their part of the job. The dates for the stars have to be managed. It can get overwhelming at times.”

99 is once again being produced by Anupam Mittal, who helped them with flavors. Also starring Kunal Khemu and a bunch of theater actors, the movie is a thriller whose plot Raj is keeping pretty close to his chest. “What we are trying to do is make something fresh and entertaining,” he says. “You can tell from the trailer that there is some talk of betting. There is a reason the film is set in 1999. There are a lots of twists and turns in the movie.” Beyond that he is maddeningly opaque.

Still, the presence of well known actors is reassuring. “Boman and Cyrus( Broacha) liked Flavors a lot,” explains Raj. The main actors of the movie also saw a short film made by D2Rfilms called Shor that was very well received at Cannes and Palm Springs Festivals. “It was easy to convince them to join the project after they had seen our previous work,” adds Raj.

99 releases on May 8th in India, May 15th in UK, US and other locations around the world.