Parent Talk Episode 25 – Parenting Kids with Special Needs

Parent Talk is a weekly radio show sponsored by the India Community Center. It airs on Radio Zindagi, 1550 AM, live on Saturday mornings at 10 a.m. The call in number for the show is 510-7701550.

Saturday April 14: I am going to be talking to two parentts who have kids with special needs. Having a teenager with Asperger’s, this is a topic that is close to my heart. Parenting is never an easy job, especially these days, but parents of kids with special needs face some unique challenges. Tune in to get a better perspective on what we go through.

If you have questions or comments about the show, or if you would like to participate on the show, please drop me a line at radio@indiacc.org. For news about the upcoming shows, check out the Parent Talk page.

Parent Talk Episode 23 – Money Matters

Parent Talk is a weekly radio show sponsored by the India Community Center. It airs on Radio Zindagi, 1550 AM, live on Saturday mornings at 10 a.m. The call in number for the show is 510-7701550.

Saturday March 31: On this episode I talked with personal finance consultant Ariadne Horstman and money manager Neepa Shah about investing for our kids. Learnt quite a few things, including the advice that I should save for my retirement first, then worry about the kids.  We had an interesting discussion on the various savings methods available to parents. Here is the recording.

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If you have questions or comments about the show, or if you would like to participate on the show, please drop me a line at radio@indiacc.org. For news about the upcoming shows, check out the Parent Talk page.

Half a Billion Reasons to Go Crazy

mega  millionsAt the beauty salon, the cashier comes in excitedly, waving a fistful of lottery tickets. “I had to go all the way to the donut shop to buy these,” she huffs, “I don’t want the liquor store to make the commission. I don’t like liquor stores.”

For an event whose probability of happening is one in 176 million, there sure seems to be a feeling of sweet possibility in the air.

“I’ll pay off your mortgage, Jimmy,” the cashier says expansively. “And I’ll buy you a house.” The last is directed at the lady who is busy scraping my heels. She laughs and chatters in Vietnamese. “Everybody is going crazy,” she tells me.

Don’t I know it! Till this morning I knew, vaguely, that that there was a lottery going around with a half a billion payout. Since I was sure that the chances of winning were lower than being struck by lightning (1 million to one) I had put the idea out of my mind. But when a friend called about her plans with her winnings (!) I couldn’t resist.

At the liquor store in a quiet location in Fremont there are no crowds, but there is a steady stream of buyers flowing to the counter. At a station set up with for Mega Million hopefuls, an elderly gentleman scratches his head at the form. “I really don’t know how to do this,” he mutters. With his gender’s disdain for asking for directions he continues to struggle while I march up to the store owner and ask for instructions. Eventually we both figure it out and I return to the station to pick out my numbers. As I fill in the numbers in an action vaguely reminiscent of a multiple choice exam, there is a soothing drone of “Good luck, good luck, good luck,” from behind the counter.

Mega Millions is a US multi-jurisdictional $1 lottery game. It replaced another lottery called the Big Game in May 2002. According to Wikipedia, the jackpot is advertised as a nominal value of annual installments. A cash value option pays the approximate present value of the installments. Mega Millions currently uses a 1/56 (white balls) + 1/46 (the Mega Ball) double matrix to select its winning numbers. The drawing is done in Atlanta, Georgia. You pick 5 numbers from the top half of the sheet and one from the bottom. Then you pray!

The TV in the salon shows a long line, stretching around the block, at Kavanaugh Liquor in San Lorenzo, CA which, according to California Lottery, is the luckiest retailer in the state, having sold 4 winning tickets before. The Lottery also helpfully lists a list of other lucky retailers. Clicking through to this list takes an inordinate amount of time..if it is ad-supported, today would be a good day for the site.

Pity the poor souls in Alaska, who don’t have a pipeline into this fantasy; the state, along with 7 others, does not participate in the drawings. Though Hawaii’s omission seems only fitting; why dream of paradise when you can live in it every day?

At work a friend waves her ticket at her boss. “I bought one, just so you know,” she informs her. “I bought 5,” says the boss.

At the salon, the distribution of the winnings is still occupying everyone’s attention. After all, it is not easy to allocate the 640 million dollars the payout has risen to during my pedicure. In an infinite loop, the impossibly large number feeds the hope and greed of millions, and if the Friday drawing is inconclusive, that number ( which today equals the GDP of Maldives) can keep exploding, fueling even more lottery mania.

A study on the behavior and characteristics of  players suggests the typical subject is likely to have less income and be less educated that the average person. But this current fever has consumed every age and demographic. Kids dream of going to Disneyland, their parents dream of buying it even though, in a study done in 1978, researchers arrived at the conclusion that non-winners ended up happier than winners because of 2 factors – 1) Winning the lottery set a new baseline for happiness, so winners were not able to enjoy the simple pleasures of life anymore, and 2) They just got used to having the money after a while. Winning the lottery has been used as a cautionary moral tale in several films like It could Happen to You and Waking Ned Devine, and is the subject of the creepiest short story I ever read, “The Lottery” by Shirley Jackson.

The stream of hypothetical generosity is finally drying up at the salon. “I’ve marked my ticket with a star,” says the cashier. “So nobody think of cashing it.” When I leave I turn around to wish everyone good luck. The owner, who has been silent thus far, pipes up. “If you see a closed sign on the door tomorrow, you know what happened.”

Parent Talk – Episode 22: Discipline

Parent Talk is a radio show broadcast on Radio Zindagi 1550 AM in the SF Bay Area every Saturday at 10 a.m PST.The show is hosted by me and sponsored by the India Community Center.

On March 24, I talked to Sushma Trivedi, a marriage and family therapist who has appeared previously on the show, and Kavita Mallick a long-time educator and the mother of 2 sons. The show was about the most effective way to enforce discipline around the house and we discussed the many styles of parenting and which kind was the most effective. A fascinating show.

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Next show: Money Matters – What to look at when you are planning for your kids’ financial future.

Table Tennis Tournament April 7th – Vibha invites you to participate!

“Not every child is fortunate, some need you”. This is the motto that we all live by at Vibha.

My name is Pranav Mohan, and I am part of Vibha’s recently founded Youth Chapter.
My experience working with the Youth Chapter has been very beneficial to my life. It has given me a strong sense of community and accomplishment.

Vibha is a volunteer driven non-profit organization working towards the cause of underprivileged children. Started in 1996, the Bay Area Action Center was one of the first few Vibha action centers in US. Vibha Bay Area is a group of energetic and enthusiastic volunteers coming from all walks of life, brought together by one strong belief that we can positively change the future of children in India and US.

Vibha Youth Chapter in the Bay area has been setup with the intention of providing a platform for Middle and High school Vibha groupYouth to make a positive impact on society. Formed in 2010, this youth chapter is run by youth leaders under the guidance of their parents and Vibha mentors. We plan various fundraising and awareness events to raise money and create empathy for the under-privileged children in India.

This year, the Youth Chapter is hosting a Table-Tennis Tournament on Apr 7th as our next event. This tournament is the first step of the Youth Chapter into formal fundraising activities after a few successful Books and Bake sales across the Bay Area. The event will primarily be run by the youth under the guidance of the parents and adult volunteers right from planning to execution of the event. We will also be doing a Books and Bake sale at the venue.

On behalf of the Youth Chapter, we encourage all readers of Water No Ice to participate in our biggest event yet!
So gather all of your friends and come to the first of many events hosted by us for a good cause!

When – April 7, 2012, 4pm to 9pm
Where – ICC Table Tennis Center
1453 N. Milpitas Blvd Milpitas, CA 95035

We look forward to your support for this worthy cause. For more information and to register for the event, please go to: http://cart.vibha.org/45-tt-match.html

Kailash Kher Live in the Bay Area

Kailash Kher

REMIT2INDIA presents Kailash Kher live in concert

in association with

AAA Entertainments and Jai Singh

Venue : Chabot College, Hayward, CA 94538

Start Time:  7.30pm

Date : April 28th, 2012

Ticket Rate : $35, $45, $55, $65, $75 VIP and VVIP

Tickets available at: www.aaaentertainments.com

Sanjose: Kamal Spice
Sunnyvale:India Cash and Carry
Hayward: Kash Fabric
Cupertino: India Cash and Carry
Santa Clara: New india Bazar
Dublin: Kamal Spice
Fremont: India Cash and Carry

For more info:

Call Jai Singh : 510-677-2777 or Praveen 510-509-1910

Radio Partner : Radio Zindagi

Remit2India offers Two free tickets everyday to the Kailash Kher concert, Register@ kk.remit2india.com today and win your free tickets.

Asha Stanford's Holi 2012

Asha Stanford’s Holi 2012
April 7th and April 8th, 11 am – 3 pm, Sandhill Fields, StanfordAsha Holi
Different experience! 2 days full of fun! Deserving cause!

Yes, you can get all that at one event! Asha Stanford brings you the best way to start off Spring 2012 Holi, the biggest communal celebration of the eponymous Indian festival in the Bay Area!

Holi is all about celebrating the colors and vitality of spring, with family and friends and we figure about 5500 lbs of food-grade colors and tons of water should be enough to get you started with the celebrations! Your first time at Holi? Make sure you read below on how Holi works! Come join us in this day long party, and help us raise funds for education projects for disadvantaged children!

No alcohol is allowed at the event.

Online tickets only. Buy here.

Hurry! Get your tickets before Mar 25th for an early bird discount!

General : $14 ($16 after Mar 25)
Student : $12 ($14 after Mar 25)
Stanford Student : $10 ($12 after March 25)

Two Day Tickets:
General : $24 ($28 after Mar 25)
Student : $20 ($24 after Mar 25)
Stanford Student : $16 ($20 after March 25)

Groups of 25 or more : contact stanford.holi@ashanet.org for a group discount.
Free admission for kids under 5.

All proceeds from this event will go towards supporting primary education for underprivileged children in India.

What am I in for?

ASha holi2

Color
We are getting over 5500 pounds of five different colors, all starch based with no harmful chemicals.

Suggested use: Grab handfuls of different colors, and smear all over nearest face, self included. Try aiming for friends or family, though complete strangers on the field wouldn’t mind either. Try not to smile too wide when they return the favor pink teeth don’t suit everyone.

Water
Water hoses, Water guns*, Water puddles in the ground! – Whatever you need to soak your friends.

Food
Savor delicious Indian food*. You will need all that energy to go back on the color battle-ground.

Dance Performances
What do you do when you get tired of all the great food, free showers, pretend-artists, and bathroom dancers on the field?
Stop by the stage, and be entertained! We are hosting dance performances, by popular Bay Area dance troupes.

DJ
No one can resist dancing to non-stop Bollywood music. Don’t know the moves? – pick some up today from the latest desi video online, or even the nearest desi on the day!
Too shy? come on, you think anyone can recognize you under all that color?! Need more motivation? we are giving away prizes for dancing!

Kids Corner
Kids get their own fun corner at Holi – with their own color and water section, Holi games and activities, and other playmates to keep them company.
You are going to have a hard time dragging them away at the end of the day.

Biggest Holi party in the Bay area
Really, you need more reasons to come join us?

Parent Talk Episode 21 – Single Parenting

Parent Talk is a radio show broadcast on Radio Zindagi 1550 AM in the SF Bay Area every Saturday at 10 a.m PST.The show is hosted by me and sponsored by the India Community Center.

On March 17, I talked to two single parents who shared their experiences and strategies for coping as well as  family therapist and psychiatrist.

Guests: Anju Chugh, who works as an educator for special needs kids; Parul Chandra, who is also an educator who works at Stanford; Dr. Leena Atul Khanzode, who has a private practice as a psychiatrist in San Jose and who also works as a psychologist with the Bay Area Family Coalition.

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Kahaani – Compact, Competent, Compelling

There are so many things to like about Kahaani, not the least of which is the movie’s setting in Calcutta, sorry, Kolkata. Name change notwithstanding, the city seems much the same to someone who left it 20 years ago –claustrophobic but convivial and female-friendly. Director Sujoy Ghosh treats Kolkata and its denizens with familiarity and affection, and I could sense the many Bengali viewers in my local multiplex just settling down in their seats a little more comfortably as the movie rolled on. It is such a pleasure, and a rarity, to watch a Bollywood movie that has no Punjabi characters and North Indian settings.
Kahaani tells the story of a very pregnant Vidya Venkatesan Bagchi (“Bidda Bagchi” to locals) who arrives in the city looking for her missing husband. To share much more would be to reveal a plot that the writer (also Ghosh) has taken great pains to craft for maximum surprise and shock value. As the movie unfolds she is helped in her search by cops and civilians all sympathetic to her condition more than her plight. For those squeamish of sad endings involving kids (present and unborn) Kahaani has a very satisfying denouement.
Vidya Balan is great in the Ashley Judd-style role (oops, did I reveal something?) of Vidya Bagchi. She is helped by Ghosh’s deft little human touches in what is a by-the-numbers thriller.( I mean that as a compliment, by the way; it isn’t easy to execute a perfect suspense drama, and Ghosh succeeds admirably.) Balan’s interactions with the little kids reveals the glow in her smile and when she dons the Korial lal paar sari (I hope I am getting it right) for Durga Puja, she is the classic Indian beauty that we loved in Parineeta.  As the sole lead, she is ably supported by a cast of mostly old-time character actors with familiar faces and forgettable names.
Kahaani is deftly edited, though one senses many scenes layering character and adding depth were left on the floor to preserve the tight pacing. Or maybe they were deliberate red herrings. For instance, the cabbie who takes Vidya from the airport to the Kalighat police station seems very friendly and even gives her his number. He is never seen again. Was this just a loose end? There are many such moments in the film that peter out but, to Ghosh’s credit, they do not distract.
The soundtrack by Vishal-Shekhar is great, though only Amitabh Bachchan’s rendering of  Tagore’s “Ekla Cholo Re” makes it into the movie – it is just beautiful, though, and AB’s sonorous voice does it full justice.
Ghosh, who also directed the underappreciated Aladin (so sue me!), has clearly evolved as a director who understands the importance of drama. One of my biggest issues with the pleasant but rather tame Jhankaar Beats was the lack of that slightly larger-than-life element that makes a good theater movie, and that shortcoming is completely eliminated in Kahaani.
Other reviewers have commented on the unapologetic display of the pregnant female body and Ghosh’s preoccupation with motherhood (Juhi Chawla’s pregnant Shanti is the calm center of Jhankaar Beats) but Kahaani is not meant to be introspected on too much. Enjoy it for what it is – a gripping home-grown thriller that avoids all the stereotypes of anti-terrorism movies “inspired” by Hollywood. There are no high tech toys, no larger than-life villains, and no sexy foreign locales. Just good, solid entertainment and total paisa vasool.

KahaaniThere are so many things to like about Kahaani, not the least of which is the movie’s setting in Calcutta, sorry, Kolkata. Name change notwithstanding, the city seems much the same to someone who left it 20 years ago—claustrophobic but convivial and female-friendly. Director Sujoy Ghosh treats the city and its denizens with familiarity and affection, and I could sense the many Bengali viewers in my local multiplex just settling down in their seats a little more comfortably as the movie rolled on. It is such a pleasure, and a rarity, to watch a Bollywood movie that has no Punjabi characters or North Indian settings.

Kahaani tells the story of a very pregnant Vidya Venkatesan Bagchi (“Bidda Bagchi” to locals) who arrives in the city looking for her missing husband. To share much more would be to reveal a plot that the writer (also Ghosh) has taken great pains to craft for maximum surprise and shock value. As the movie unfolds she is helped in her search by cops and civilians  sympathetic more to her condition  than her plight. For those squeamish of sad endings involving kids (present and unborn) Kahaani has a very satisfying denouement.

Vidya Balan is great in the Ashley Judd-style role (oops, did I reveal something?) of Vidya Bagchi. She is helped by Ghosh’s little human touches in what is a by-the-numbers thriller.( I mean that as a compliment, by the way; it isn’t easy to execute a perfect suspense drama, and Ghosh succeeds admirably.) Balan’s interactions with the little kids reveals the glow in her smile, and when she dons the Korial lal paar sari (I hope I am getting it right) for Durga Puja, she is the classic Indian beauty that we loved in Parineeta.  As the sole lead, she is ably supported by a cast of character actors, several of whom have familiar faces and forgettable names.

Kahaani is deftly edited, though one senses that some scenes layering character and adding depth were left on the floor to preserve the tight pacing. Or maybe they were deliberate red herrings. For instance, the cabbie who takes Vidya from the airport to the Kalighat police station seems very friendly and even gives her his number. He is never seen again. Was this just a loose end? There are many such moments in the film that peter out but, to Ghosh’s credit, they do not distract.

The soundtrack by Vishal-Shekhar is great, though only Amitabh Bachchan’s rendering of  Tagore’s “Ekla Cholo Re” makes it into the movie – it is beautiful and AB’s sonorous voice does it full justice  (at least to this non-Bengali!).

Ghosh, who also directed the underappreciated Aladin (so sue me!), has clearly evolved into a director who understands the importance of drama. One of my biggest issues with the pleasant but rather tame Jhankaar Beats was the lack of that slightly larger-than-life element that makes a good theater movie. Kahaani makes up for that in spades.

Other reviewers have commented on the unapologetic display of the pregnant female body and Ghosh’s preoccupation with motherhood (Juhi Chawla’s pregnant Shanti is the calm centre of Jhankaar Beats). The setting of the climax during  Durga Puja also invokes a certain symbolism (again, saying anything beyond would spoil the suspense) but Kahaani is not meant to be introspected on too much. Enjoy it for what it is – a gripping home-grown thriller that avoids all the stereotypes of anti-terrorism movies “inspired” by Hollywood. There are no high tech toys, no larger than-life villains, and no sexy foreign locales. Just good, solid entertainment and total paisa vasool. Is it as good as A Wednesday? Almost. Almost.

Parent Talk Episode 20 – Summer Camps at ICC

Parent Talk is a radio show broadcast on Radio Zindagi 1550 AM in the SF Bay Area every Saturday at 10 a.m PST.The show is hosted by me and sponsored by the India Community Center.

On March 10, I talked to the camp coordinators and counsellors for the summer camps hosted by ICC. If your child is interested in becoming a counselor, or even if you are looking for a summer job opportunity for your child, do tune in.

Guests: Neena Jain, Camp Coordinator at ICC, Tanja Bahal, Executive Director of ICC, Tabbassum Gupta and her daughter Alisha, who are regular users of the summer camp services, Anushka and Siya, camp counselors.

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