Parent Talk is a radio show broadcast on Radio Zindagi 1550 AM in the SF Bay Area every Saturday at 10 a.m PST. The show is hosted by me and sponsored by the India Community Center.
On March 3, 2012 I talked to family therapist intern Geetha Narayanan and American High School junior Rajat Maheshwari about the bullying issue. What constitutes bullying? How do you know if your child is being bullied? How do you know if your child is a bully? What can you do to help your child?
We also had call-in guest Mary Gilder who used to be a bully as a child and now passionately advocates against bullying and offers help and advice.
Here is the recording of the show:
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After the show, Geetha had a few more suggestions:
POINTS ABOUT BULLYING FOR ELEMENTARY SCHOOL KIDS:
– Tell them they are not alone if they are being bullied.
– Create play date/sleep over rules. Create this with your child. Keep it in a place where both of you can see it every day.
– Remind them of the rules when they leave the house.
– Keep telling them that as parents it is your job to keep them safe, if your child is annoyed by your reminding them.
– Parents, ensure there is enough adult supervision in any environment your child is likely to be in.
HOW DO I STAY CYBER-SAFE: (FOR TEENS):
– Never post or share your personal information online (includes your full name, address, telephone number, date of birth, parents’ names, credit card number or social security number or your friends’ personal information).
– Never share your internet passwords with any one, except your parents.
– Never meet anyone face-to-face whom you only know online.
– Talk to your parents about what you do online.
WHAT PARENTS CAN DO:
– Keep your home computer in a busy area of your house.
– Set up email and chat accounts with your children. Make sure you know their screen names and passwords, not include their personal information on their online profiles.
– Find out who each person is in their “buddy list”. Ask who each person is and how your children know him or her.
– Discuss cyberbullying with your children and ask if they have ever experienced it or seen it happen to someone.
– Tell your children that you won’t blame them if they are cyberbullied. Emphasize that you won’t take away their computer privileges – this is the main reason kids don’t tell adults when they are cyberbullied.
– We as parents may not have all the answers immediately some times. Tell them that we (you and your teen) can work together to find the answers that are safe.
WEBSITE RESOURCES FOR BULLIES/CYBERBULLIES:
– www.bullypolice.org – Bullying and Cyberbullying laws by state
– American Girl Movie – Chrissa (for elementary school girls) – Could use it for boys also. To teach them to not alienate any one during recess. This is a good example of “Secret Bullying”.
– The Clique – (for middle school girls)
– Mean Girls – (for high school girls)
– Bully ( releasing March 30, 2012)
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